Received today: friend request from an old girlfriend. Second time I’ve been contacted via the facebooks by a Serious* Former Girlfriend.
I haven’t figured out how to deal with this yet.
The other SFG (“J”) who contacted me sent me a message saying, basically, “sorry I was a horrible evil fucking bitch whore who deserved to die in a fire.”** I sent her a polite message in response and denied the friend request, as, realistically, we were never really friends. We met and became a couple shortly afterwards. My feelings for her proceeded from lust to love to raw searing hatred. But now that those feelings have long passed… what? There is no basis for friendship; our lives intersected a long time ago, we had quite a lot of fun doing drugs and fucking, and then that was over. I don’t regret it, nor do I wish her ill, I just honestly don’t give a shit.
And now “C” has contacted me. No message, just a friend request out of nowhere. Not sure what to do with this. I don’t consider C to be actually evil like J, and C was actually in the friend category for a while before things escalated, so I will probably accept the request to see what she wants. Last time I saw her, she had recently gotten married but wanted to get something going with me on the side, because apparently I am good at the sex.
* i.e., not a dated for a while and/or fucked a few times then broke up and moved on with no hard feelings on either side girlfriend, but a totally for reals in love for a year or two of my life and then shit went wrong and crashed and completely fucked me up for a bit girlfriend.
** everything after “sorry” is implied and/or inferred.